Exploring Unusual Kinks With Books

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One of my favorite things about being in college was being aggressively pelted with new ideas and new knowledge on the daily. Post-college, it’s been a lot harder to seek out ideas that challenge my perceptions of sex and sexuality.

SheBop does a great job of pulling out books that push boundaries in all the right ways. It doesn’t matter if you’re interested in these ideas. Learning more about what other people are interested in can make us smarter, wiser, more compassionate people. Check out these books to learn more about the kinks (fetishes, and sexual preferences) people are talking about today.

Intimate Invasions: The Erotic Ins & Outs of Enema Play _ $13.00

Play Piercing – $14.00

The Artisan’s Book of Fetishcraft – $28.00

The Toybag Guide to Age Play – $10.00

The Toybag Guide to Chastity Play – $10.00

The Master’s Manual – $16.00

Food Porn – $30.00

Sexting: The Grownups Little Book of Sex Tips for Getting Dirty Digitally – $15.00

Buy through SheBop via these links and 15% of your purchase goes right back into running my blog! 👏🏼

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ST Reading List: The First 50-ish Books of 2015

Every year I try to read 100 books – and this year I’m on track! Here are the first 51 books I’ve read this year, with the books I’ve read most recently at the top. Instead of noting how I felt about each book, let me know if you’re curious about something, or if you need a recommendation!

I’m more than happy to chat about books all day / all night. Happy Reading!

  1. The Miniaturist (currently reading)
  2. Calling Dr. Laura
  3. Grey
  4. The Truth about The Harry Quebert Affair
  5. Finders Keepers
  6. Dept. Of Speculation
  7. The Maze Runner
  8. I Don’t Know: In Praise of Admitting Ignorance
  9. Warriors
  10. The Look of Love
  11. Mark Strand’s New Selected Poems
  12. Are Prisons Obsolete?
  13. The Flanders Panel
  14. Orphan Train
  15. Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving
  16. How to Love by Thich Nhat Hanh
  17. A Dark and Twisted Tide
  18. Fashioning Fat
  19. The Politics of Women’s Bodies
  20. Playing the Whore
  21. A Clash of Kings
  22. Rethinking Normal: A Memoir in Transition
  23. The Strange Library
  24. Like This For Ever
  25. Girls Like Us
  26. The Girl on the Train
  27. All The Light We Cannot See
  28. Dead Scared
  29. Trigger Warning
  30. Your Cat: The Owner’s Manual
  31. What Alice Forgot
  32. Moonwalking With Einstein
  33. The Cormorant
  34. Thumbprint
  35. A Load of Hooey
  36. Now You See Me
  37. The Marriage You’ve Always Wanted
  38. The Great God Pan
  39. Persepolis
  40. Pro: Reclaiming Abortion Rights
  41. Dark Places
  42. The Promise of a Pencil
  43. Redefining Realness
  44. All The Bright Places
  45. White Noise
  46. The Ultimate Guide to Sex After 50
  47. Skim
  48. What is Marriage For?
  49. Against Football
  50. Revival
  51. Ready Player One
  52. The Invention of Wings
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Schools Out: Books About Sexuality

Schools out. For the Summer. But you, intelligent human, want to further edify yourself with some saucy literature. Here are some books that will be sure to make you the hit of any happy hour chat.

Best Sex Writing of the Year $17.00

Featuring favorites Epiphora and Lux Alptraum

Oh Joy, Sex Toy Vol 1. $30.00

Necessary for those who like to exercise smile muscles.

Femalia $14.50

Your lady parts are normal, check it out!

Sex from Scratch $15.00

A book I wish I would have written! Redefining your own relationship rules for better relationship satisfaction.

Gender Outlaw $16.00

Kate Bornstein is a hero.

Slow Sex $15.00

This book is awesome. In a world of harder-faster-stronger it adjusts the conversation back to the little things.

Yes means yes! $17.00

Still relevant today, still relevant tomorrow. Always relevant. Get yourself well acquainted with female sexual power and a world without rape.

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Books I read January – February 2015

I’m well on track for my book goal this year! Here is what I’ve read so far this year. What are you reading?

  1. The Invention of Wings
  2. Ready Player One
  3. Revival
  4. Against Football
  5. What is Marriage For?
  6. Skim
  7. The Ultimate Guide to Sex after 50
  8. White Noise
  9. All The Bright Places
  10. Redefining Realness
  11. The Promise of a Pencil
  12. Dark Places
  13. Pro: Reclaiming Abortion Rights
  14. Persepolis
  15. The Great God Pan
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February Book Club + January Reads

I’ve had What Do Women Want? by Daniel Bergner on my shelf for ages now, and I can’t wait to read it with you! Last month we read “Perv” (search “book club” for posts about it!) and it was a bit of a trial run. I’d love for you to read along with me and leave your thoughts! It’s a fun way to get involved and learn something new.

If you have no idea what I’m talking about, here is the rundown:

– Every month I pick a book. There’s a reading schedule posted to the left side of my blog (bottom for mobile.)

– I post weekly-ish updates about the readings, reflecting on the book, posting thoughts, asking questions. I tag them with “book club” so you can find them if you miss them.

– If you’re following along, share your posts about the book, or leave a comment!

Books play a huge role in my blog, and my beliefs in general. It’s important to keep reading, keep learning, expanding your perspective of the world. There are so many interesting books out there that I can’t wait to specifically share 12 of them with you.

Since it’s the end of the month, here’s what I read in January:

What did you read this month? 

No need to let me know if you’re joining in on book club for February. Just grab the book, procure a bookmark, and get to reading! 

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Books Books Books

Fully stocked up on books again, here’s the stack that’s sitting on my table. Summer reading is awesome!

  1. the girl who fell from the sky – heidi w. durrow
  2. the firm – john grisham
  3. the vagina monologues – eve ensler
  4. rose madder – stephen king
  5. delta of venus – anaïs nin
  6. the visible man – chuck klosterman
  7. message in a bottle – nicholas sparks
  8. timeline – michael crichton
  9. zen and the art of motorcycle maintenance – robert m. pirsig
  10. the bell jar – sylvia plath
  11. she comes first – ian kerner

I’ve also had some inquiries as to other books I would recommend reading. I feel like I’ve written about that pretty recently re: sex/love but here are the books that I’ve read so far this year. In order of reading, too!

  1. Steve Jobs
  2. The Walking Dead I
  3. Hey, wait…
  4. Open: Love, sex, and life in an open marriage
  5. Damned
  6. The future of us
  7. Is everyone hanging out without me?
  8. Opening Up
  9. The Help
  10. The God Part of The Brain
  11. The Hunger Games
  12. Sacred Marriage
  13. Delusions of Gender
  14. On Writing
  15. Love in Abundance
  16. The Language of Flowers
  17. Room
  18. Sexual Intelligence
  19. Some Girls
  20. The Pagoda
  21. Book of Salt
  22. Funny Boy
  23. Stuck Rubber Baby
  24. Fifty Shades I, II, III
  25. The Defining Decade
  26. The Passion
  27. Just One Look
  28. Watchers
  29. Bag of Bones
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Psychology of Love

Hi there, could you recommend some books on the psychology of love and relationships? Or any good psychology reads? Thank you so much for your time. 🙂

  • Opening Up
  • Open
  • Mating in Captivity
  • Shameless
  • Just Marriage
  • Lust in Translation
  • The Brain That Changes Itself
  • Committed
  • The Ethical Slut
  • The Brain in Love
  • The Commitment
  • Sex at Dawn

Those are all the books I could think of that I’ve read that fit that umbrella. The two that probably best fit your question are The Brain in Love and Sex at Dawn. The Brain in Love attempts to look at love from a neuro standpoint by considering hormones and brain anatomy. This sort of thing is pretty big in the media lately because everyone wants to know how their brains compare and how knowing what your brain does and how it works can give you an up in love. It’s a fun read, but be careful to remember that it’s only one perspective in a huge umbrella of perspectives. A lot of this research is relatively new. Sex at Dawn comes more from the evolutionary psych standpoint looking at why we love the way we love and why we love who we love. It has a focus on non-monogamy and why we end up cheating or being cheated on, but the content of the book includes so much more.

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