Last week I went and got my first wax in over two years – yowza. I had stopped going partially because I had grown accustomed to having some hair, and partially because it’s so expensive. About $950 a year if you go regularly and tip accordingly.
And it was funny, because in the week leading up to that appointment, I felt like a super newbie. How bad does it hurt? Should I take some aspirin? How do they get all those funky places? I honestly couldn’t remember too much about the experience other than I used to do it regularly and didn’t seem to have too much of a problem. Here are some questions that went through my head – and the corresponding answers after getting my memory refreshed. In the most, uh, vivid way possible.
Should you trim your pubic hair before you get waxed?
I trimmed a bit prior to going but I didn’t trim as much as I should have. If you have longer hairs, the wax is more likely to grab hair that the waxer isn’t actually waxing. And that hurts. Make sure that you don’t trim too low, most places recommend at least 1/4 inch growth.
Should I take some pain killers before I go to make it hurt less?
You can, but it didn’t help me. The sting from the wax is so quick that I don’t think that taking a pain killer has ever made a difference. Judge for yourself – popping two prior to the appointment can’t hurt. The most painful part of the wax for me is when all of the hair doesn’t come up with the wax. They then have to apply a second strip – or more wax – to that area, to pull it up. That can require pulling on an area of skin several times in a row which becomes tender. An inexperienced waxer or someone working with a wax they are unfamiliar with is probably more likely to run into this problem.
How do they get the hair from all those close-up places, like your crack, or right next to your labia?
I’ve had different experiences with different waxers. Some will ask you to hold things taut so they have better access. Others will reach and pull and ask you to maneuver in ways that give them access. If you’re uncomfortable with certain aspects of the wax, let your waxxer know prior to getting started, or ask questions about what to expect so you can both be well informed.
What is it like after a wax? Does it hurt, is it red, are their ingrown hairs?
You can get ingrown hairs – it depends on the person, and the wax! Because a brazilian is a type of exfoliation in itself, avoid additional exfoliation for a few days. Then implement a gentle exfoliator (even just a washcloth with some gentle soap) into your showering routine. The salon I go to provides some creams you can apply afterwards to reduce redness and make ingrown hairs less likely. It feels a little sensitive for a day – which is what you’d expect! But everyone’s experience will be different.
Isn’t it weird being waist-down naked with a stranger in the room?
Nope – not at all. I’m not the first vulva they’ve seen that day and I won’t be the last. I am definitely not special.
Any other tips or tricks?
- You can get a wax on your period (with a tampon or a menstrual cup) – but you may be more sensitive, so be aware!
- Removing your pubic hair is your choice – don’t let anyone pressure you into ripping all of your pubic hair out unless it’s something that really makes you happy. You’re under no expectation to look like an otter. No one expects it. It’s not the standard. I asked everyone for ya.
- If you’re down for the wax but don’t want all the hair gone, let your waxxer know. It’s fun to leave a little triangle or strip if you’re not feeling 100% bare.
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