ST Catchup: Spring has Sprung

I haven’t gotten a chance to sit down and write a personal update in a while, so I wanted to check in, and say hello. First things first: Last month I had over 15,000 unique viewers to my site.

I am constantly reminding myself that I do have a reach to touch people and I’m hopeful that more and more of you find comfort in commenting, adding your thoughts, and asking questions on the site.

A blog about sex & love does very little when it only connects with people who think and feel the same way about everything. Diverse viewpoints, and reaching people who have never heard some of these ideas, is what I’m looking for most.

What else is new? I’ve been seeing someone new for just over six months now and that is going fabulously. Monogamy never looked or felt so good. It’s a good feeling to date your best friend. Don’t worry, though, I’m still super interested in ethical non-monogamy as a subject and am continuing to read and write about it as much as I can, experience aside. I’m looking forward to writing about monogamy and those experiences as well, since I know a lot of my readers rest on either side.

I was also supposed to graduate this term. Instead, I decided to stay on for three more terms. My diploma is going to look a little something like this.

  • Psychology, B.S.
  • Women’s Studies, B.S.
  • Gender, Sexuality, Queer Studies, Minor.

Yowza! Because why not double major? I realized I was just a few credits away and the extra time is so worth it to me. I’m taking these courses:

  1. Motivation – One of the only Psychology courses I haven’t taken. I put it off, because, well, motivation. Who wants to be reminded that they could be more motivated in life? Of course you could be more motivated in life. I’m really interested in learning more about the neurological aspect of motivation and those little things that actually get people to get up and go. For this course I get to work with an organization to help build a business plan to motivate more people to get involved. Sounds useful for my blog, too!
  2. Feminist Biblical Interpretation – I’ve never read the bible and let me tell you how completely over my head I was when I went to go buy one. I ended up buying a study bible for the ESV which apparently has a huge chunk out the back cut out that is only in other bibles. I started reading it and was like I need the idiots guide to the bible. This is going to be a challenging class but I’m really looking forward to learning more about religion, through the eyes of feminist analysis.
  3. Gender & Critical Inquiry – This was a last minute add for me. This is a WIC (writing intensive course) which means you are constantly writing. Free writes, short papers, long papers. I’m hoping this class improves the chicken scratch that has been born from years of typing. If anything, at least my finger muscles will get stronger. I’m looking forward to learning more in depth ideas about feminist analysis which will help me push through the difficult portions of my women’s studies degree. (Including a super awesome practicum!)

I haven’t written about courses on my blog in a couple terms but considering how well these tie in with gender/sex/love I’ll probably be doing that more often again.

For funsies? I’ve gotten to travel a lot recently. I went to visit some online friends in Canada and then went with the boyfriend to Wine Country in Oregon where, aside from tasting wine, we got to see the Spruce Goose. I’ve also gotten to see lots of live music and sports games. Aside from some odd jobs I’m doing to pay the bills I’m also in the process of moving my site over to self-hosting. It’s possible that this may disrupt my site briefly in which case I’ll post about it on twitter @suggestive along with any updates.

Hope you’re all doing well, and thanks for reading!

(Photos taken by me, this spring.) 

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  1. Monogamy has always suited me, personally. I don’t judge those who swing other ways, because we can’t live each other’s lives.
    Motivation was an issue for me, four or five years ago. I realize now that being a full-time caregiver WAS my first motivation, and that teaching a course at a Community College was secondary, which was unfair to the students. One must never be mercenary about such things. Teaching is an act of the heart, or it is nothing at all.

    1. Our University is about a week out from a strike. I am hoping that they come to an agreement before that point. I think for me personally the style of the relationship has to be flexible — depending on the people in the relationship, the point you’re at in your relationship. One size doesn’t fit all 🙂

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