Tap Tap, this thing on?

I got a formal letter from my insurance company. They say they will no longer pay for me to come to therapy once a week. I am “more motivated and more assertive” and have shown “a substantial amount of progress.” It was seven pages long. If I could afford it, I would turn it into terrible…

Blogging As Business: An Update

I’m doing something I’ve never done before. I’m writing posts and editing them before I post them. It feels foreign. My usual way of things is to type posts in the editor box (which is what I’m doing now, old stomping ground) and hit publish without reading it first. I’m trying to be better. Here are…

Guest Post: Vulvodynia & Loving Your PC Muscle

As a woman in my early thirties, I have had quite a few humbling learning experiences with regards to my pelvic floor (men obviously also have a pelvis but what they know or don’t know about their anatomy is for another time). These experiences have turned me into a pelvic floor physical therapy pushing maniac…

Q: I’m toxic, he’s toxic. Only with each other.

Weve been together for 4 years and 8 months. Im toxic. Hes toxic. Only with eachother. We are very pleasant when we arent miserable. I think im worse than he is though. His mom did everything for him growing up-she picked out all his clothes and made his plate and served it to him, cleaned…

Perhaps This Is A Confessional

I wrote this article (“just because its not your fault doesn’t mean its theirs“) about a month ago and I can’t stop thinking about it. I have been thinking very critically lately about how I impact other people, positively, and negatively. I’ve been thinking about how we all experiences the same situation differently. Based on…

The Report 1.20.17

nothing guarantees an orgasm When a list on the internet that ‘guarantees’ orgasm claims things like ‘sending a sexy text’, ‘trying doggy style’ or ‘alternating your tongue’s movements on a clitoris’ are all going to BLOW HER MIND…. it hurts the people that this won’t work for. st says: Important and critical advice. If something…

45: Coped and Coping

This morning I set my alarm for 9:15a to miss the bulk of the morning blubber. It feels violating. This person, in this position. I gave myself this one moment because I know for the next four years, we’re going to be wrapped in this madness. And as someone who dedicates this emotional energy to…

Drawing Your Relationships

The other day in therapy, my therapist pulled out a white board, and drew a little circular image. Then she told me to write names on it. It instantly transported me back to being in a waiting room as a child and seeing the pile of toys on the floor in the corner. This space is for…

QOTD: All Men

“Until we can collectively acknowledge the damage patriarchy causes and the suffering it creates, we cannot address male pain. We cannot demand for men the right to be whole, to be givers and sustainers of life. Obviously some patriarchal men are reliable and even benevolent caretakers and providers, but still they are imprisoned by a…

Relationship Tip: Pretend You’re Single

If you break up and she cuts her hair, man, it’s over. She’s moved on. I was thinking about this idea the other day and how I personally have acted and re-acted after breakups. A breakup can be a rebirth. You realize all of the ways in which you had begun to stagnant. So you…