QOTD: Anaïs Nin

I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naive or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman. Anaïs Nin

Writing about Gender

After studying gender for eight years, I’ve reached an impasse. I’m not inspired anymore. Things that used to feel cutting edge feel old and overdone. I wanted to write about gender today. I wrote it in big block letters in my schedule. WRITE ABOUT GENDER. Write about men, write about women, give trans resources, offer definitions for new or…

WOTD: Gaslighting

Gaslighting: (wikipedia) Gaslighting or gas-lighting is a form of psychological abuse in which a victim is manipulated into doubting their own memory, perception and sanity. Instances may range from the denial by an abuser that previous abusive incidents ever occurred, up to the staging of bizarre events by the abuser with the intention of disorienting the victim. Sociopaths and narcissists frequently use gaslighting tactics. Sociopaths consistently transgress social mores, break laws, and exploit others, but…

My therapist says I’m an adult

My therapist called me an adult. She looked me in the eyes and she said you are an adult. At least, I think she looked me in the eyes. I was staring at the carpet in shame wondering how much time was left in our appointment trying to mentally fight myself out of the cage she…

In Defense of Bean Flicking and Burning The Midnight Flux

Have you heard of masturbation jealousy? It typically happens in heterosexual relationships when a man learns his partner has been masturbating. He becomes angry and tells her that he’s uncomfortable with her getting off without him. Sometimes the masturbation jealousy is specific to toys (fear that the toy will replace the man) but sometimes it has…