Partners Toys

I didn’t like the We Vibe. The vibrations weren’t strong enough to make me orgasm during sex with my boyfriend. Are there any other couples toys out there that you know of that we could try?

Just a note! The We Vibe III has been released (I’m not sure if this is the one you have) but it’s noted to have 40% more vibration power, among other things. If you’re set on the style of the We Vibe, I might give it another shot. There are other toys out there that have a similar style (the same exact style, really) but the We Vibe seems to be the nicest of the set.   You can read more about that here.

I consider most toys partner toys, because you can use any toy with your partner. The We Vibe is one of the first toys that takes that literally. Lelo has made toys that are similarly shaped to the We Vibe but work with a remote as well. Other options are things like vibrating cock rings, wireless remote controlled vibes, props for the shower or bedroom, or games that you can play together. There are also double ended dildos and strap-ons. Or if that’s not kinky, there’s always whips, feather ticklers, bondage gear, and costumes.

If you’re really looking to go the more literal route though I would definitely check out the Lelo toy I linked above, as well as the entire line of toys they’ve just released. They’ll put you out over $100 bucks – but if you can afford it, it’s well worth the extra money.

What I’m Reading

I’m fairly certain that this new research has been popping up all over the internet with different headlines. The one I remember (which I was snarky about) was “Social Support key in Preventing Gay Suicide” – which kind of pissed me off, because social support can help prevent any kind of suicide. It’s still interesting, though. It reminds me of one of the particularly heartbreaking episodes of Savage Love where Dan talks to a kid out in the bible belt who is gay in a place where it’s not OK to be gay and there aren’t any resources for those who are gay (or not straight)… Hopefully studies like these will prove as a trigger to getting more help to the parts of the states that are currently at a loss for it.

I take all of these things with a grain of salt, but I still thing they are important studies to keep up on.

Yes! I saw this on the news yesterday and quickly looked it up online. What an incredible project… though, to be fair, I think if this was a real research study it wouldn’t be approved. Well, maybe it would. But my god the stress it would give her and everyone she didn’t tell.

A while back I wrote about my decision to not question the sexuality of others anymore. I don’t really like supporting articles that question others, either. This one struck my interest though. Her daughter says that he wasn’t gay, and then says:

“Can’t blame men for wanting him, and wouldn’t be surprised if Dad even mildly flirted back. When the question arises, it generally speaks more about the person asking.”

“Dad somewhat enjoyed being called gay. He said it made women want to prove the assertion wrong.”

I think this is an awesome way to tackle those who question your sexuality. Let them question. They shouldn’t- I don’t think- but they’re going to anyways. Being secure about your sexuality says a lot about you as a person. Whether you’re straight, gay, bi, or anywhere inbetween. Not letting people who do question your sexuality get to you is a pretty good thing to master.

Before going to Paris I had the fantasy of sitting in front of little cafes and sipping hot espresso. That fantasy was quickly drenched in the reality that… well, Paris isn’t the place to go for coffee. But it should be. There has been a lot in the blogosphere lately about the coffee culture of Paris gaining speed. Wish I could be there to participate!

There has been sort of a new trend in perfumes. Even Lady Gaga has mentioned creating a line based off of blood and semen. These set of blood type based scents range from leather to cherry and… well, that sounds a lot less creepy.

I probably won’t be getting my hands on this anytime soon, but a beautiful toy. I’m still aiming for the traditional we-vibe ii. Rechargeable toys are definitely hot right now, though!

using toys to spice it up

A popular note of conversation recently has been sex toys, and how people are realizing that they aren’t necessarily only for solo play anymore. After getting a few questions in regards to this on my formspring yesterday I decided to just do one big post instead of answering them all individually. For the extent of this blog all the question will refer to a heterosexual relationship.

Q: What toys can you use with your partner in bed?

A: You can use absolutely any toy you can get your hands on with a partner. Any and all sex toys can be worked into your sex life with your partner. Remember that not all sex is simply penetration. Many times during one session of sex partners will break, switch it up with oral, anal, fingering, handjobs, or even masturbate in front of each other before going back to vaginal penetration again. Some sessions of sex revolve around toys and oral alone. Sex is, quite simply, not just a fucking game.

There are some toys that are meant to be used on your own, and others that are meant to be used as a partnership. The ones that are meant to be used on your own are obvious. Vibrators, dildos, anal beads, anal plugs, etcetera. All of these things can be used during sex. Put the anal plug in and have your boyfriend penetrate you. Your vagina will feel tighter and you’ll experience twice the pleasure. Put anal beads in your boyfriends ass and slowly pull them out as he has an orgasm, you’ll double the intensity and length of his orgasm. Hold a vibrator to your clit or his perineum as you’re having sex. Use a dildo whilst you 69. The list goes on.

Q: What are some partner sex toys?

A: One fantastic new toy is called the we-vibe.

The we-vibe is shaped like a C (click link to view). You hold the we vibe onto yourself by putting one half over your clit and sliding the other half inside of you. You can keep it like this and work yourself into a powerful orgasm, or you can keep it there, add some lube, and have your boyfriend screw you while it stays on… vibrator your clit and his dick. It’s a spendy toy, but if you’ve got the money I would consider it a worthy investment.

Another example would be the cock ring. It can help keep your partner erect while a little (or big) vibrating nub hits your clit each thrust. The vibration can also be pretty pleasurable for men.