Me (24) and my boyfriend (30) have tried prostate milking but it just doesn’t seem to be working do you have any advice or tip on this subject?
Great question. I wish I had a better answer than I’m going to give. This isn’t something I’ve done myself, and it’s not something I’ve read much about. (In fact, with a bit of research, there wasn’t much to find.)
Prostate Milking (Urban Dictionary):
Is the process of expelling stagnant, stale or toxic seminal fluids (whether medical, or for sensual fulfillment) from the prostate gland. Prostate Milking is a live lengthening, loving effort to lessen the chance of prostate cancer, and as a loving means of extreme sensual pleasure.
Apparently prostate milking is big in the BDSM crowd in respect to orgasm denial – drawing out orgasms, or ejaculating without orgasm. We also talk about prostate massage in respect to prostate health. [link]
I found a couple of blogs that might be of interest (the last one mostly being weird.) If you already know the general technique I would suggest doing one of two things: Keep practicing, and work on mental state. It’s pretty much the same with anything else in the bedroom, but it could make the difference here. Link 1 Link 2 Link 3
Lastly: Watching pornography with this theme and/or using prostate toys could help the process along. Good luck.
Hello, My wife and I were reading one of your older posts. In the post you stated that some men have learned how to orgasm without ejeculating and are capable of having multiple orgasms in a single session. I am just curious if you can advise how a man can get to the point that he would be able to do this? My assumption was always that an orgasm and ejeculating were one in the same so I am extremly intrigued. Thank you for your time!
Though the male multiple orgasm is seemingly more rare than the female multiple orgasm, it is possible for men to experience more than one orgasm in one session. It’s done via “dry orgasms” – or not ejaculating with orgasm, allowing the male to continue having sex until he orgasms a second time, this time ejaculating.
I can’t speak to the process personally, as I’ve never had a penis, and I’ve never ejaculated. I would recommend reading this book. It goes through and discusses the male body, how arousal works, and gives exercises for practice. Much of it has to do with becoming more in tune with your body and what different states of arousal are, so you can find yourself approaching the peak more closely without actually ejaculating.
What can a women do to increase her chance of having an orgasm if she has never had one before with her partner. Even though she might be having really good sex she just can’t orgasm with her partner.
Good sex doesn’t mean you’re guaranteed to orgasm, and I think that’s important to realize. Too many people are out there believing that they are subpar in the bedroom just because their partner isn’t able to reach an orgasm during intercourse. There are so many factors that can contribute to hitting the peak. Yes, technique does play a role. So does experience together, learning your body and your partners body, time and patience, being aroused mentally and physically, having the time to explore and play, and learning to let go and enjoy oneself.
Learn how to have powerful orgasms by yourself.
2. Use toys
Don’t be afraid to bring toys into the bedroom to help aid in orgasm
3. Join In
While you’re having sex, don’t be afraid to reach down and play with your clit. Most women cannot orgasm without some kind of clitoral stimulation.
4. Work on having fun
Don’t let orgasm fears take over and stress you out. The more stressed out you are about wanting to orgasm the less likely it will happen when you want it to.
5. Try new things
Experiment with new positions, techniques, lubes, toys, dirty talk, anything you think that will boost the emotional/physical arousal in bed.
What does it mean, if anything, if a guy’s cum doesn’t shoot out but instead slightly oozes out? A strong ejaculation vs a weak one basically. Are there any underlying issues to be worried about?
I haven’t heard of any underlying issues related to ejaculation strength – it’s not something that I would be concerned about. All men are different. Some men ejaculate a lot, some men dont’ ejaculate much. Some men ejaculate far, some men don’t. Like pretty much everything else in sex, it varies both by person and time. Two things that may influence the distance that you shoot? The strength of your muscles, and the time since your last ejaculation. (In men orgasm/ejaculation can be separated, but lets talk about them as concurrent events here.) I talk about kegel exercises a lot, usually in references to women and the use of ben wa balls. However! Men can also do kegel exercises which can help strengthen the important muscles involved in sexual performance. (Just don’t use ben wa balls.) If you want to read more check here and here. Time since last orgasm can also have an influence on the intensity of your ejaculation and your orgasm. If you (or your partner) ejaculate frequently with not much time between orgasms – every day or every two days, for instance – it’s likely that you won’t see much difference in the distance you’re ejaculating. Lastly, I would suspect, the buildup you have to your actual ejaculation may have some influence on shooting. Think of putting on a cap on something and then shaking it up for twice as long. It’s going to build up more pressure, yes? This might not be a solid theory all the time, or for all men, but the intensity of your orgasm in connection with the strength of your muscles may get you that shooting effect that you’re asking about.
And of course it’s important to say that real life isn’t porn. Not all men can do XYZ. Even if you have all of these points in place, you might just ejaculate the way that you ejaculate. And that’s cool, too. You’ll never accidentally shoot someone in the eye with your semen.
Have you heard/read of “50 Shades of Grey” by E L James? The author describes a scene where the main male character is able to bring a female character to orgasm through nipple play alone. Is this possible? Or creative license? I can’t quite decide.
This book actually just came in on hold for me today at the library, so I’ll be picking it up later on! Since I haven’t read it I’m not sure of the particular scene you’re talking about, but it’s definitely possible to orgasm through nipple play alone. Some people have very sensitive/erogenous nipples. I guess it’s also important to consider this like a study, though. There are a lot of things that might play a factor in the answer.
1. Woman in empty room being stimulated by a cold robot.
2. Woman on a bed with porn in the background being stimulated by a strange man.
3. Woman on a bed being talked to dirty while porn is on the background being stimulated by her partner.
4. Woman in a warm bath after having penetrative sex and clitoral stimulation being stimulated by her lover as he sits on top of her.
The basic question being: what is “just” nipple play? Are we saying there is no additional mental/physical stimulation at all? Ever? At the moment? Because every little bit of stimulation can add to the arousal, and ultimately add to the potential orgasm. If we’re talking about a woman in an empty room having her nipples stimulated by a robot… ehhhhh… I mean, even if you could orgasm by nipple stimulation purely without any other tip of added stimulation, wouldn’t that make orgasm more difficult?
There are a lot of factors. The simple answer being: yeah, it’s possible. I’ve heard of it being done, and I’ve heard women enjoy it. I would say that it’s unlikely that many women can orgasm this way. If you want to get real crazy, think about orgasming without being touched at all. Oh 40 days, 40 nights, Hartnett really left before his prime.