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Like a Squirt Gun, Ooh.

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Okay, Squirting. Ready, set, go. You’re in bed with you’re lady and you’re getting hot and all of a sudden did you just urinate on me? Awkward. See, most couples don’t start their romantic affairs with a conversation about water sports. So when you’re doing the dirty (or even just a lovely finger bang) it can be a little curious when your partner suddenly ejaculates onto your face. Uncalled for, unprepared, completely astounding. Luckily for you, the chances that your partner just actually pissed on you are slim to none. When the body is aroused, the urinary system shuts the fuck down. That strange pressure you have that you need to piss yourself? Well, you might be about to squirt. If you want to prevent the “But how can I be sure?” the best way is by using the restroom immediately before having intercourse. Then you can check in with your nagging self No, no. You already went. Hold on tight. It’s gonna be a good one. 

The g-spot is the particular criminal of these awfully deep sensations. A little g-spot stimulation can go a long way. A lot of g-spot stimulation is even better. The hard part about writing a post on squirting is that a lot of what we know seems to be best guess. I mean, try taking out funding to learn why women wet themselves. We’re some sexually repressed folk – well, some would argue. I mean, I’m writing a post about female ejaculation, so how repressed are we really? We know all about the penis, or at least we think we do, but the vagina is a mythical winged creature that often gets left behind.

Here’s what we do know: Some women can squirt a fluid, some women can’t. We’re not sure if they can’t or if they just haven’t yet. For some women it happens easily, or even accidentally, and for others it takes very direct movements of the finger to elicit the response. If you want to see if you can squirt, the best option is probably to reach a heightened level of arousal and have your partner double up on some intense clitoral and g-spot stimulation. Some women say that their squirting is not necessarily accompanied by an orgasm. You’re going to have to be comfortable with the mess that it’s going to produce – having a towel on hand is a definite plus. While we do know the fluid isn’t urine, we don’t know exactly what it is, other than the fact that it probably has something to do with the Skene’s Gland.

If anyone has any other reputable sources for female ejaculation, link them in the comments. I was unable to find anything useful to link to outside of some less-than-interesting studies or pop culture references. I think the bottom line is: body does awesome things, seems kind of funny, does happen in real life, not all women can or have done it, data is limited, it has two social stigmas (one: yaaaay thats hot two: whaaaaat did you piss on me?) so be careful with how you (as partner) proceed with it.

is squirting hot?

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Is squirting considered hot by most guys?I can make myself squirt(I just started having sex/hasnt happened with my bf yet)but I dont know what his reaction will be like so I don’t want to bring it up or “direct” him when he’s down there so that it happens.

I don’t feel comfortable speaking for the entire male population here. I don’t feel comfortable speaking for any population of people, actually. Too much responsibility. I do feel confident in saying that I have not once heard a man complain about female ejaculation. Most of the responses tend to be on the side of enthusiasm. She came so hard, it was so hot, got everywhere, so wet, etc. 

Here’s the thing: Your body does something cool when you get off. You should tell your boyfriend! What would your response be if you didn’t know guys could ejaculate and one day he was cumming really hard and shot it in your hair? Oh shit, that was awesome! Or Why the fuck didn’t you tell me you could do that?!

It could be a little bit of both, but jussayin’ – a little warning never hurt.

We’re so concerned with being normal and clean and tidy and hot and appropriate that we wind ourselves up and get all anxious. Part of Sexual Intelligence is being comfortable with your body and what it does. That means all the bits and pieces that make you, you. Including your body, your sexual preferences, and the things that come and go with experience and age.

I don’t know if you can control your squirting or if it just happens, but regardless, it is a part of your sexual repertoire. Own it! Tell your boyfriend that you found out that you can squirt, how it happens, what it is, how it feels, and let him revel in the new information.

I’d tempted to say “if he doesn’t like it, he’s an asshole” but that doesn’t seem fair. Nobody is out there saying “sometimes women squirt from their vaginas and it’s not urine” and so sometimes we have to take it upon ourselves to explain bodily functions that were never taught in health class.

Do yourself a favor and preface your conversation with a little note: I have something I want to tell you and I’m a little nervous about it so please don’t be weird about it, but I can do this cool thing with my vagina and I’m wondering if you think it’s hot or have ever seen it before or know what it is or …. [etc]

But seriously, it will all be fine. The hotness factor is on your side.

What I’m Reading + Notes

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What I’m Reading

iPad Fleshlight Case is … interactive porn?

Just about everything that is Vacerelli lately.

Another great post on the equality of all women’s rights by Jessica Valenti

Mind Games with Kelly Oxford

And lastly, as with current events, if you see a friend post suicidal content on Facebook please notify someone.

Sex & The Family Notes

Some of this will be straight jibberish from my notebook, some obvious and some fun, others will be thoughts from the class.

STARTING WITH: Drawing your own genitalia by memory! We had a guest speaker come in and go through male and female anatomy this past week and it’s been incredibly fascinating. At the start of one of the classes he brought up the activity of going and drawing your own genitals from memory and then comparing to see how close you were. A lot of people snickered and thought it was weird, but I thought it was kind of awesome. Even if you’re ze best arteessst in the land, you should know “whats normal for you” and this might be a good test at just how well you know yourself. Give it a shot. Let me know if you do and if anything surprised you! (I won’t post your genital drawings on my blog unless they’re really awesome.)

I thought very simple examples of sexism were interesting. For instance just prompting “Are you male or female?” prior to a study may influence the results on the study because you are reminded “I am female” prior to answering the questions. Strange where those biases can come in to play.

Circumcision: Why would someone circumcise their child? Many people looking for excuses to do it because they want to, but want their to be “valid” medical health reasons to do so. Teacher explains that there really aren’t any, and so you should own where you desires come from and that’s okay to feel the way you feel. For instance: Maybe you just want your son to look the way you (or your partner) does – in the sense that it will be easier to explain bodies to them if you two look the same. Or perhaps it is a tradition in your family, albeit a strange one when get down to it, that you circumcise. No right nor wrong here, necessarily (or as one of my teachers says: no shame no blame!) 

Foreskins… in face cream? FIBROBLAST. Also foreskins in skin grafting. What happens with foreskins in hospital?

This is kind of cool: At Portland State they’re working on having a gender neutral bathroom in all the buildings (I think) which would mean bathrooms which anyone can go in. Not just one stall rooms, either. They also talked about the idea of allowing gender-identity to play a roll in which restrooms you could use. For instance if you identified as female but were born male, you could use the female restrooms… well, anyways. Gender and restrooms. Think about it.

My teacher said “owning your sexuality” and I just about died. He also referenced that it means doing what you want to do and NOT doing what you don’t want to do. In other words: if you don’t like it, say no. If you do like it, say yes! This reminds me of a meme I saw recently about: If you say yes, you’re a slut. If you say no, you’re a prude. Just no winning in the virgin whore dichotomy. (Which is what I’m writing one of my papers on this term.)

Someone asked about PMS: is it real? The answer he gave – as a man – was very eloquent, and safe. Essentially that everyone has cycles all the time and that perhaps just once a month women become more insightful about who all the assholes are and become more verbally confident, or something. Basically that it was about perception. And of course he also mentioned how fantastic the female body is and how it really isn’t so much to ask for someone to cook you dinner and get you some chocolate. You know, in the grand scheme of ovary-explosion uterus-shedding, really-exhausted-being-human kind of way.

Oh, and we talked about the g-spot. He expressed some rage in how we’ve done studies that correlate handedness (left/right/ambi) to which one of your testicles hangs lower. And yet. We still don’t know exactly what the g-spot (area? region?) is – where it is – if every women has one – what exactly the purpose is – or how it’s related to squirting (female ejaculation) since it appears to me. We also don’t necessarily know what the fluid is that is squirted out, aside from the fact that it is not urine.

Fucked up, right? Particularly in light of the “studies” that have come out recently. There is no denying there is a G-REIGION OF SOME KIND but that modern science hasn’t fully solved that mystery yet is kind of astounding, no?

What we do know is that: it is an area of heightened sensitivity in most females on the anterior wall of the vagina and that stimulating it is related to the release of fluid known as female ejaculation or squirting.

I know guys, I know.


He then went into some explanation about the paraurethral glands but I’m not going to pretend I’ve looked this up yet but I plan to and if I find anything insightful I’ll get back to you. If you men out there want to do some studying of your own, do a quick search for the prostate. The ladies don’t have one (the p-spot and the g-spot are said to be analogous, as many parts in the male/female bodies are) and the prostate is the source of lots of really fucking rad shit.

(Note: Lots of people/websites/books will articulate quite clearly what the g-spot is and where it is and what it is, as have I in the past, but as much of this information is contrary nor not very well researched, take it for what it is?)

I then drew a picture of a vagina that looks like a really scared alien but alas I don’t have a scanner.

Menopause: 50s, typically

Menarche: 9-16 yrs of age, sharp bell curve, age becoming younger but menopause not becoming older.

Those who start menarche earlier tend to be African American or poor (typically poor + african american) yet we still don’t know exactly why the age is getting younger or how it may correlate to this.

Some positive-thinkers say that it’s just our bodies going “Hey, you live longer now, lets give you a longer period of time to reproduce by making you able to at a younger age – for a longer time!” But I don’t know about that.

Tra la la, ovulation. And done.

Female Ejaculate?

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When I masturbate, I end up squeezing my vaginal muscles and producing relatively small amounts of liquid. It is clearish white and watery. Is this female ejaculate/am I squirting? This doesn’t happen during intercourse.

I feel like I should get out a white board and start keeping track of all of the fluids that women produce. It’s shocking. Shocking. Not really. Wait, it’s simple. I think. When aroused, we get wet. The vagina self-lubricates (!!) to make penetration easier. Sometimes this might be a clear fluid, other times you may get the thicker clear fluid, other times you may get a thicker white fluid. It’s a good sign that you’re aroused, and double-the-benefit, it helps things slide into you. We also produce discharge as the vaginas natural defense against nastiness (when the vagina cleans itself) which is what you’ll see in your underwear throughout the month. Some people produce more than others.

So the simple answer is, yes, it’s female ejaculate. Squirting is a whole different animal. For one, you actually do squirt the fluid. For two, the fluid is (not urine! it’s been tested!) similar to that which comes from the prostate. If it’s small amounts of liquid and it’s just slipping out of you or is just… there, it’s not squirting.

Why doesn’t it happen during intercourse? Well, option one is that you’re not reaching the same level of arousal with your partner as you are by yourself. If you want to play around with it, show them what you do to yourself and see if they can produce the same effect. You can also play with yourself while they are there, either with them or without. It may not be a huge problem for you if you’re still able to get off during sex, but it could be fun to let your partner/s in on how to make you get that wet.

female ejaculation

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I taught myself awhile ago how to orgasm and ejaculate using my kegels. Now while having sex with my bf, two things happen: 1. my kegels push him out. 2. there was A LOT of female cum on the sheets, did I accidentally urinate? Thanks for any advice!

This is a tricky question to answer clearly so I’ll try to keep it simple. I suppose I would say that it’s possible to urinate during sex, but it’s more likely that you 1) Felt like you were going to urinate 2) Squirted so much it looked like you were urinating. It can be difficult to pee if you’re turned on, and these two things often get confused for urination when they’re not at all involved.

If you hadn’t had a bunch of liquids before sex and didn’t feel any pressing need to use the bathroom my vote would go to female ejaculate. I’ve heard of some women who get so wet that they soak the entire bed with fluids so it’s not a stretch in my mind that you just get really wet.