Questions are answered on my blog on Mondays and Wednesdays. If you would prefer a private email response, please include your email at the bottom of your question. 

I respond to all questions as long as they are written respectfully. There is no such thing as a stupid question.

“Don’t not know.”

Any and all advice should be taken as my personal opinion. I’m not a “sexpert.” I’m not a doctor. If yours is a serious matter, please call a professional. If you need help tracking down a professional, let me know. Any and all advice pertaining to sex is directed towards those who are above the legal AOC. If you are underage please visit scarleteen.com – they provide excellent sexual and relationship advice for teens.

I am only one voice in a sea of amazing writers giving advice. Don’t just stop here! Ask questions, get multiple perspectives! Read books! Research online! Become an advocate for yourself, and then share what you learn with others.

I try to be as inclusive as I can when giving advice. However, I understand that as an individual I don’t know everything and am not read on every subject. Most of the advice I give is directed specifically to the person who was writing it, presumably applicable to some people who are reading. When I am writing my own advice, unprompted, I tend to stick to perspectives I know or understand well. (I am white, cis, bi, sexually fluid, open, in a relationship, I speak from this bias.)

If you’re looking for a particular perspective, or would like me to help you find other resources who may be gone through the same things you are now, please let me know. As the above points out, there are a ton of people out there that can help, and I can only help so much.

This website is a a reflection of my own thoughts and opinions, ever-evolving. It’s meant to be a safe space for people to discuss difficult concepts. I do not tolerate blatant homophobia, sexism, misogyny, or any other disrespectful remarks towards me or my readers.