Is there really such a thing as a “loose pu$$y”? Can a woman really get stretched out down there?

Vaginas look and feel different – but they are not drastically different from one another. You will not have a “loose pussy” if you have a lot of sex, nor will you get stretched out if you have several partners. This is a form of sex shaming to prevent women from enjoying their sexuality. Think of the vagina like a muscle – the more you use it, the stronger it is going to get. Some vaginas are stronger than others. Women who work their kegel muscles regularly can gain greater control over them by strengthening their muscles. Doing so can make the vagina feel tighter as it clamps down around a penis. A vagina can also feel tighter or shorter/smaller if a woman is not quite as aroused or not yet aroused. With arousal the vagina will expand and get temporarily larger for the duration of sex/arousal. With arousal also comes vaginal lubrication. Different women produce different levels of lubrication. If a woman produces a lot of lubrication she may provide a more slippery penetration which may feel less “tight” than a vagina that is not properly lubricated. In this case, the tightness may actually be uncomfortable for the woman, and potentially the man as well. This is why it is so important to incorporate foreplay into sex so the vagina can properly lengthen/expand and lubricate to make sex more enjoyable.

If you would like to make your muscles stronger, work on your kegel exercises. You can get ben wa balls to insert into your vagina – you can exercise at work or school, throughout the day.

If you produce a lot of lubrication and find that you are too slick and are missing some desired sensation, find positions that shorten the vaginal canal or tighten it by pressing legs together, bending over, or experimenting with other positions during sex until you find one that produces the sensations you’re looking for.

If you do not produce a lot of lubrication or if you find it takes a long time to warm up and you are too tight/small for penetration, extend foreplay. Using additional lube as well and/or sex toys prior to having sex with a partner can help the process along. Oral sex and fingering can also be useful.