Do you consider yourself polyamorous? (Would you be able to have a relationship with more than one person at the same time?)
Thanks for asking this question – it’s been something that I’ve been discussing with a lot of people recently. I feel that in some cases I am poly. I believe that we can love many people all at once, in many different ways. I don’t think love is finite and I don’t think that we can run out of love to give. Despite this, I don’t think that I am at a place where I could have another relationship. I am not sure it is something I am ever going to be interested in. I have tiptoed into this, and have read and researched a lot, and have not found myself wanting to pursue it. I have not clicked well in more serious secondary situations. Hopefully some of this is making sense, because I’m going to go one step more confusing.
While I’m not interested in having secondary relationships, dating, or having another partner, I do really enjoy having intimate friendships. The line is very thin here so I don’t really explore this option with people who don’t understand what it means. Essentially you get to know someone very well, you like spending time with them, you’re good friends with them, you may play with them, but you’re not together. For me this typically manifests in having a friendship with someone who I see a few times a month and may or may not play with depending on how we’re both feeling. It is a very casual situation and can be difficult if the other person is not looking for the same thing.
The people and situations I look for have evolved a bit in the past year so I can’t say exactly how it will look a year from now, but I find it fairly unlikely that I will be interested in forming other relationships.