Hi, I don’t know what to do. I want to have sex with one of my good guy friends, because lately the sexual tension has been insane and we know just the right buttons to press for each other, so I think we’d have really great sex. He wants to, too, but I think he loves me a lot and though I love him, I don’t want to get too serious, which I think he wants.
Also another caveat is he has a mutual friend with my ex (he is his best friend…) and I had sex with this guy after breaking up my with my ex. My guy friend has no idea, since his friend and I decided it’d be best to keep that to ourselves. I don’t know why I feel bad about it but I do. I would like to be in a relationship with my guy friend but I’m afraid this will leak out later.
To be perfectly honest, this doesn’t sound like something I can give you advice on. You have some choices to make and what choice you make may or may not influence future choices you’re able to make. You’ll have to weigh the situation and feel out what path to take.
I can’t speculate about what will happen with each path you take because I don’t know the people involved. There are too many possible outcomes, too many variables.
If you slept with tension-boy maybe you would have really amazing sex. Maybe that would be it and it would be fine. Maybe you’d find that you do want to get serious. Maybe you’d find that you really don’t want anything like you thought and things would be complicated because he wants more. If you don’t sleep with him, maybe you’ll always wonder what it would have been like until the tension makes you crack and you do it anyways. Maybe you’ll just move on and continue to be good friends.
And then there is the guy you already slept with. What about him? Can you not be in a relationship with him right now? If you can, is that an option for you as well? Do you have good sexual tension with him? Are you wanting a relationship? Are you just wanting to be single and explore your options for a while?
Sounds like you have a lot to think about.
I would do some serious thinking about it and then figure out what direction you’re being pulled hardest to.